During this time I have been recuperating from surgery, I have taken some time to look at things in my life, as I alluded to in my post yesterday. Much of my time was spent in front of the TV, as my surgery took my right arm and hand out of commission.
I am a serious sucker for TV shows that were popular when I was growing up. In particular, shows that portray life as I would like it to be. One show that I never grow tired of watching is “The Waltons”. There are so many things about that family that I would like to include in my own family.
First, let’s start with the things that I would like to include but will probably never happen. The chances of me living on a mountain, surrounded by family and friends is probably not going to happen. I would be content with about 7-10 acres that contain a small woods, a stream, a large yard where I can plant a garden, and farmhouse similar to the one the Waltons lived in, but with a few more modern amenities – a couple more bathrooms, and a gas range/oven. Being a SAHM to a large family with a husband that worked from home is probably not in the cards either, but I can still dream.
Now for the things that I can incorporate into my family. Slowing down. Being involved in every activity at school and church is not something that our family must do. Family dinners. There is absolutely no reason that my family cannot sit down to dinner at the table, say grace and share our day with each other at least 5 times a week. Turning off the TV. A lot of people will say that watching TV is the modern version of listening to the radio. I sincerely disagree. The TV is something that seems to suck my children into it. There are many other activities that we can be doing – listening to music, listening to books on CD, reading books out-loud to each other, playing games with each other. All of those activities encourage interaction with each other. Choosing activities that support our Christian beliefs. There are a lot of worthwhile activities that my children can get involved in through school. But there is an edge to all of them – fund-raising, competition, and interacting with lots of children who don’t share our value of respect. I am not saying that I want to totally shelter my children from these things, but I think elementary school is a bit too young for it to infiltrate every part of their lives. Talking to my children. I know this may sound like a no-brainer, but sometimes, in the hustle and bustle of the day, bouncing from activity to activity, getting homework done, getting chores done, I realize that I have not really talked to my girls. I am missing golden opportunities to get to know them, to help guide them to follow Christ, to become compassionate, respectful adults.
So, things in my house need to change. No they are going to change. Step by step I am going to reclaim my family. I am going to take a step back in time and enjoy the simple things. It is not going to be easy. It is not going to be without some withdrawal pains. But I think my family will be the richer for it.